Writing the Book That Wrote Me Back

I didn’t set out to write The Cost of Her Crown because I had all the answers. I wrote it because I had all the questions.

Questions like:

• Why did I feel exhausted trying to live up to every version of womanhood the world handed me?

• Why did “freedom” start to feel more like pressure?

• Why did the things that were supposed to fulfill me—career, independence, success—leave me feeling like I had somehow still missed the mark?

This book was born in the quiet ache of those questions. It came out of years of trying to do it all, be it all, carry it all… and then realizing I was never asked to. I started writing not because I was ready, but because I was finally willing to sit still long enough to hear what God had been trying to say to me for years.

And what He said changed everything.

The Cost of Her Crown is my honest journey through feminism, family, faith, identity, and the chaos of trying to live up to a cultural script I never asked to audition for. It’s my story—but it’s also the story of a generation of women who were handed a version of empowerment that quietly eroded the things we were created to protect: our peace, our homes, our children, our calling.

Writing this book felt like holding a mirror up to my life—and realizing that what I saw wasn’t failure, it was fatigue. I was tired because I had picked up a crown the world offered me, not the one God handcrafted for me.

But through every chapter, I began to see it clearly: the roles I had once resisted were actually sacred. The weight I had tried to carry alone was never mine to hold. And the woman I kept trying to become? She wasn’t who God was calling—I was.

Writing The Cost of Her Crown wasn’t just therapeutic—it was transformational. It forced me to revisit hard seasons, dig into history, open my Bible with new eyes, and face where I had conformed to culture instead of being transformed by truth.

This book didn’t just change the way I see womanhood.It changed the way I see me.

Now, I see that reclaiming God’s design for women isn’t about going back to the past—it’s about going back to the blueprint. It’s about remembering that submission isn’t weakness, motherhood isn’t small, and biblical womanhood isn’t outdated—it’s anchored.

So if you’re tired, confused, or quietly wondering, “Is this all there is?”—I wrote this for you.

I hope it brings clarity. I hope it brings courage.And most of all, I hope it brings you back to the One who crowned you from the beginning.

Because this isn’t just about reclaiming our roles. It’s about remembering who we really are.