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Not Perfect. Not Polished. Sometimes Messy. Just You and Me.

Updated: Aug 3

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Welcome to Me Again, God. This is where faith gets real—and sometimes raw. If you're new here, let me tell you right up front: I'm not perfect. I'm not polished. But I am here to tell the truth—even when it’s messy. Especially when it’s messy.

This blog is born out of the same reason I launched the podcast: because I’ve lived enough life to know that culture will sell you a dream—and God will hand you the truth. One leads to burnout. The other leads to peace.


I Thought I Could Have It All

I grew up in a loving, Jesus-centered home. My mom made our house feel like a sanctuary. Her life made me want to be a mom, a wife, a homemaker. But somewhere along the way, I started listening to culture instead of Christ.

Culture told me I needed a backup plan. It told me motherhood wasn’t enough. It told me to go to college, build a career, and “become something” just in case a man failed me.

So I did what culture said. I went to college even though I didn’t know what I wanted besides a family. I chased career paths, racked up student loans, and tried to prove something I didn’t even believe in.


But I Was So Empty

At 27, I had the car, the job, the cute apartment. But I was alone. No husband. No family. And the life I actually wanted seemed further away than ever.

So I settled.

I married someone who checked none of the spiritual boxes, but I convinced myself I could “make it work.” It was a marriage built on desperation, not discernment. I led spiritually. I carried the emotional load. I tried to be both mother and father. And it nearly broke me.


The Cost of Culture’s Lies

When we step outside of God’s design, everyone pays the price. My kids. My peace. My future.

That marriage ended in heartbreak. I was hollow. But in that hollow place, God met me. He didn’t shame me. He didn’t guilt-trip me. He gently walked me back to Himself.

And that’s where everything changed.


Boundaries Aren’t Barriers

I began to learn the difference between biblical boundaries and emotional walls. Boundaries aren’t mean. They’re not selfish. They’re sacred. They’re how we guard our hearts and honor God at the same time.

Scripture is full of examples of boundaries God set for His people—not to isolate them, but to protect them.

The moment I started saying “no” to what drained me, I had room to say “yes” to what mattered.


A Crown That Cost Too Much

In my second book, The Cost of Her Crown, I talk about what happens when women abandon their God-given roles. No, this isn’t some barefoot-in-the-kitchen guilt trip. This is about freedom. About identity. About how badly we’ve been lied to.

Culture told us our highest calling was a title, a degree, or a paycheck. But God says our highest calling is to reflect His glory in our homes, our families, and our lives.

We’re not called to compete with men. We’re called to complete the design God set in motion.


It’s Not Too Late to Come Home

I’m not writing this from a pedestal. I’m writing this from a place of healing. I’ve lived the chaos. I’ve chosen the wrong things. But I’ve also experienced God’s grace, God’s restoration, and the kind of peace I didn’t think was possible.

If you’re reading this and thinking, “That sounds like me”—you’re not alone. You’re not stuck. And it’s not too late.


What Comes Next

This is just the beginning. In future posts and podcast episodes, we’ll talk about:

  • Boundaries that protect instead of isolate

  • How to reclaim your peace in a noisy world

  • The beauty of God’s original design for women

  • How to heal after heartbreak

  • How to stop performing and start resting in truth


We’ll get honest. We’ll get into the Word. We’ll say the things nobody else is saying—and we’ll do it with grace.

Because sometimes the holiest moments happen in the middle of your mess… not when it’s cleaned up for Instagram.

Thanks for reading, friend. Let’s walk this journey together—flaws, faith, and all.

You’re not too far gone. And God’s not done with you yet.


  • Faith after failure

  • Biblical womanhood

  • Healing after heartbreak

  • Boundaries and faith

  • Countercultural Christianity

  • Motherhood and identity

  • Real-life faith stories

  • God's design for women

  • From burnout to peace

  • Redefining success through Scripture

  • Grace-filled transformation

  • Christian truth vs. culture’s lies

  • Rest over performance

  • Christian women’s voices

  • Me Again God blog series

 
 
 

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Welcome.

You’re not late—you’re right on time.

This space was made for the woman who once walked closely with God… and wandered. Meeting Him all over again—with less guilt, more grace, and a real hunger to get it right this time. Or maybe you have questions about what it looks like to live your life according to God's design.  

Not polished. Sometimes it’s messy. But it’s honest. And you’re not alone anymore.

Charlene Condu

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